Thinking Outside the 'Self-Care' Box"

There’s been a lot of hype around self-care lately (I’ve spoken about it before but it bears repeating…) - whether it’s due to social media or the push from the health and wellness industry or just the general nature of the fast paced and often stressful world we live in — whatever the reason - there’s no doubt that “self care” is a necessity if you want a “peaceful, less stressful” home life (which was the number 1 answer to the question “what would make your life pure bliss” in our survey (you can weigh in if you haven’t done so already).

I can go through a litany of the reasons for and benefits of self care that go beyond improved physical and mental health.

BUT

If you’re anything like I used to be - the thought of self-care sounds like a fairy tale, a farcical selfish, self-serving notion that takes time away from the things you have to do.

I taught full-time and had a part time job while raising my four kids and taking care of my home (and all that entails). I’m lucky I got through my day.

These days, I feel like I’m busier than ever. I care for my two under-3 grandkids (seems like littles take up a different kind of our energy than bigs) while running a business and I help with the upkeep of both homes.

But I found the secret to getting in some self-care every day.

…SO…WHAT CHANGED???

I could say that with age comes wisdom (but my actions don’t always demonstrate this) and, if truth be told, I’ve been practicing daily self care since my now adult kids were school-aged…

What changed were my thoughts and attitudes about self-care - although I still really dislike the term.

Self care is highly individual, so find something that works for you…talking to a friend, exercise, being in nature, cleaning (if that’s your thing - cooking is my zen), reading (or listening to books on tape), singing along to your favorite tunes while driving, whatever hobby you might have or would like to have…try out a few and integrate one into your day.

You’ll be on your way to a peaceful, less stressful home life.

Play with me: Close your eyes and imagine yourself walking into your home after a long day …it’s calm, peaceful, serene…the stresses of the day seem to melt off - what does that look…and feel like…

You can have that!

We all know that if mama ain’t happy…nobody’s happy….so, if you still think that self-care is an impossibility - or you need help putting some practical strategies into place - let’s talk. I can help you to put your “Happy family” plan in place.

Here are five tips to help you fit self-care into your busy day:

1. Start Small: You don't need to dedicate hours to self-care. Begin with small activities that can be easily incorporated into your day. It could be as simple as taking a short walk during your lunch break, practicing deep breathing exercises, or enjoying a cup of tea or coffee in peace.

2. Involve Your Children: If possible, find ways to involve your children in your self-care routine. You can have a family walk, engage in a fun activity together, or even have quiet reading or relaxation time where everyone pursues their own interests.

3. Delegate and Seek Support: Don't hesitate to ask for help or delegate tasks to your partner, family members, friends, or me. Share responsibilities, allowing you to have some time for self-care.

4. Identify Quick Self-Care Strategies: Identify self-care activities that can be done in short bursts of time. For example, you can listen to calming music or a podcast during your commute, practice mindfulness exercises during a break, or take a relaxing bath before bedtime.

5. Establish Boundaries: Set boundaries to protect your self-care time. Communicate your needs to your family and colleagues, and let them know when you need uninterrupted time for yourself.

Remember, self-care is not selfish it's a necessity for your, and your family's, well-being.