What is the most important thing for you when it comes to your kiddo(s)?
Most parents say that they're happy. We want our kids to be happy.
But we cannot construct their happiness. Happiness is a state of mind that comes from within.
We want our kids to succeed --academically, socially, and athletically - but what's most important? Is it that they do their best or do that they get the award? Or maybe it's that they have a good opinion of themselves.
And does our definition of success align with theirs?
There is a lot of pressure put on parents and kids to keep up; a lot of worry about "falling behind".
It starts almost at birth - sleeping schedules, crawling, walking, talking, learning letters, and colors, and follows throughout their lives -reading, writing, athletics, high school, college, jobs... (Like there's some mystical, magical age when kids master these tasks...and if they miss this arbitrary date it's somehow destined to ruin their future. And you are somehow an awful parent.)
No happy, warm fuzzies there.
So, here's the most important thing as I see it. Allow your kids to be themselves.
Love them for who and what they are. And not for who you want them to be.
One more thought.
The biggest precursor for kids' behavior is YOU. Model those traits you want to expand. Advocate for them.
Talk to them. Find out their aspirations and dreams, their disappointments and dislikes. Do it without judgment.
Catch your negative thoughts and behaviors and reframe. Do the same for them.
Because kids will do as you do not as you say.
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"Action is the foundational key to all success." Picasso