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Teach Your Children to be Their Own BFF

Updated: Nov 2, 2019

Teach Your Children to be

Their Own BFF!

There’s nothing like best friends – they can make you feel great because they see the best in you.

Wouldn’t it be great if your BFF (best friend forever) was always with you!

Well that can happen…when you become your own BFF!

Now this might sound a little silly but please hear me out. Teaching your kids to become their own BFF can be one of the most important skills you ever teach them.

The key to teaching your kids how to be their own BFF is to teach them about the power of positive self-talk.

Self-talk refers to what you say to yourself – both verbally (out loud) and through your thoughts. Whether you are conscious of it or not, you are almost always thinking about something and “talking” to yourself. Every day, every hour, and every minute - you are saying something to yourself that is either building you up or tearing you down. Most of the time, you are not even aware of the messages you send.

And your kids are doing it too!

There are two types of self-talk – negative self-talk and positive self-talk.

Negative self-talk includes statements, observations, and judgments that create the grungies and keep your kids from achieving their goals. Negative self-talk includes statements such as “I can’t”, “I’m going to fail this test”, “They won’t like me,” and “I’m bored.”

Negative self-talk creates an undercurrent of self-doubt - eroding self-esteem and self-confidence.

Positive self-talk includes statements, observations, and affirmations, which support your kids in their lives. Positive self-talk includes statements such as “I can do it!”, “I’m ready to ace this test!”, and “I feel great.”

Positive self-talk creates positive energy and prepares both the conscious mind and the subconscious mind to create that experience.

Self-talk is one of the most powerful influences on your kids’ emotions, their mood, their self-esteem, their self-confidence, their actions, and therefore what they create in life.

With positive self-talk, your kids learn that what they say to themselves is more important than what anyone else says to them.

The good news is that your kids can learn how to identify and shift negative self-talk and how to proactively develop positive self-talk so they can become their own best friend forever!


Mary Kerwin is an expert in helping kids to develop the confidence and self-esteem skills that they need to thrive now and grow into happy, confident, successful adults. A classroom teacher for over 40 years, she is a Coach for children, parents, and educators. Her life’s work and mission has always been, and still is, to help children develop the confidence and skills they need grow to their fullest potential. And to assist the adults in their lives to do the same. She is committed to helping children to shine, overcome obstacles, and live the life of their dreams.


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Reprinted with permission from Renaye Thornborrow.

Copyright © 2011 Renaye Thornborrow, All rights reserved.

Copyright © 2011 Renaye Thornborrow, All rights reserved.

Reprinted with permission from Renaye Thornborrow.

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