Updated: 7 days ago
Parenting, that rollercoaster ride filled with ups, downs, and loop-de-loops that make you question if you're going to lose it all.
Here's the thing: we've all heard the classic definitions of successful parenting.
The one that typically revolves around raising well-behaved, academically accomplished, and socially adept children who conform to societal norms.
The one that often emphasizes achievements such as high grades, respectable professions, and good manners.
You know, the ones that sound good on paper but often leave us scratching our heads, wondering if we're getting it all wrong.
Well, guess what? You're not alone in feeling that way. This definition doesn't always encompass the full spectrum of a child's needs, aspirations, and potential for growth.
For those of you who are meeting me for the first time, I'm Mary Kerwin, and my mission is to guide parents with tailored advice, empowering them to embrace their strengths and trust their instincts so that they create a nurturing and growth-focused family environment where both children and parents thrive. And
today, I'm redefining "success in parenting." Yup, you read that right. It's time to toss out those cookie-cutter ideas and create a new playbook—one that's all about celebrating your child's uniqueness, fostering their growth, and giving them the tools to rock their own version of success.
Let's have an honest conversation about turning those parenting norms on their head. Let's discuss a whole new way of thinking about success—one that feels right for you and your amazing kiddos.
So, as Heidi Klum says, Are you in or out?
If you are in...let's start by challenging the idea that there's a one-size-fits-all definition of successful parenting.
To do so you have to stop comparing yourself and your kids to the neighbors or your relatives or people that you see online or meet on the street.
INSTEAD, own the fact (yes, the fact) that you know what’s best for your kiddos and that you are the parent they need.
This does not mean you have to know everything.
This does not mean that you don't need support.
This does not mean you don’t need or can’t ask for help.
Instead, shift the focus from traditional measures of success, such as achieving high grades or conforming to societal norms, to a more holistic and personalized approach that incorporates your values and feels right for you and yours.
NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE ELSE IS SAYING OR DOING...
Instead, I want to encourage you to:
Identify Individual Strengths: Recognize and celebrate your child's unique strengths, talents, and interests. Measure success by nurturing their passions and fostering a sense of self-worth.
Promote Emotional Intelligence: Emphasize the importance of emotional intelligence, teaching and modeling empathy and self-awareness.Redefine success as raising emotionally resilient individuals who can navigate life's challenges.
Prioritize Well-being: Prioritize your child's mental, physical, and emotional well-being over external achievements. See success in kids who are happy, confident, and mentally healthy.
Cultivate Critical Thinking: Shift the focus from memorization to critical thinking and problem-solving skills. Measure success by your kid’s ability to analyze situations and make informed decisions.
Nurture Autonomy: Redefine success by empowering your children to make choices and learn from their mistakes. Guide them to become independent thinkers and decision-makers and see the success in that.
Pursue Positive Relationships: Highlight the significance of building strong connections with your kids. View the success in forming a close bond that encourages open communication and trust.
Encourage Lifelong Learning: View success as a continuous journey of learning and growth, both for you, the parent, and your children. Value adaptability and a willingness to embrace new challenges.
By challenging conventional notions of success, we parents can create an environment where our kids are free to explore their passions, learn from setbacks, and develop into confident individuals who contribute positively to society. Find success in the unique journey of raising children who are true to themselves and equipped to thrive in an ever-changing world.
Now it's your turn...
I'd Love to hear and see your thoughts and comments...
And, as always, if you need support shifting your definition of success in a way that suits you and yours..let's talk
Schedule a BREAKTHROUGH SESSION today. We'll look at your goals, the challenges you're facing, opportunities you might be missing. We'll also uncover hidden problems that may be sabotaging your desired results. You'll leave the session feeling renewed, re-energized, and inspired to get results faster and easier than you thought possible. And you'll have a plan of action to do just that.
There are four ways that parents typically work with me:
1. Schedule a BREAKTHROUGH SESSION today. We'll look at your goals, the challenges you're facing, opportunities you might be missing. We'll also uncover hidden problems that may be sabotaging your desired results. You'll leave the session feeling renewed, re-energized, and inspired to get results faster and easier than you thought possible. And you'll have a plan of action to do just that.
2. Get coaching, accountability, and support as you go through the ages and stages of parenting. Click here to join the Encourage-Greatness Inner Circle Membership Program.
3. ENCOURAGE GREATNESS 6-MONTH PROGRAM. A hybrid program that combines the benefits of targeted, individual, private mentorship and the support of a small group. To maintain the program's integrity and emphasize personalized attention, there are limited spots available. Click here to start the process
AND BACK BY POPULAR DEMAND:
4. Three spots per month are opening up forTHE QUICK FIX VIP day - a 1/2 day private, intensive virtual meeting with 2 follow-ups. The Quick Fix is designed to work through and put a plan in action to solve one pressing parenting issue. We'll not only have a plan of action; you'll have implementation steps, accountability, and support to see it through. It all starts with a phone call. Click here to start the process
"Action is the foundational key to all success." Picasso
"If you are feeling overwhelmed and need some support in the parenting department, Mary Kerwin will help guide you. She’s an educator with decades of experience based in NYC but she has online offerings too. Check it out. She’s pretty awesome." .~Claudia L., mom of 3 and entrepreneur